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Anger management or abuse counselling is an exciting area of treatment because
the success can be so dramatic and so powerful
for those individuals who seriously want
to conquer this problem. Some people never
solve this problem. Many people are
caught up in anger or abuse at one time or another.
Grandchildren can be abusive to their grandparents;
mothers can be abusive to their children and wives can
be abusive to their husbands; fathers can be abusive to
their children and husbands can be abusive to their wives
and so on. Abuse can affect anyone regardless
of age, income bracket or gender.
The unfortunate thing about abuse, domestic
violence or anger management issues is that the person
who abuses often does not get help because
they believe that they can “solve it
on their own”. Men, particularly, often
do not reach out for help and so they decide
to go it alone. They make promises to their partner, their God, to themselves – but
nothing really changes. Many people do not
believe that anything can really change so
they adjust to their circumstances and try
to compensate in order to modify their extreme
behaviour. But what actually happens is that,
with time, the destructive behaviour increases
in frequency and the severity deepens. Trust
and confidence evaporate from those that
they love.
This is definitely not a “fix it yourself” type
of problem.
The body of knowledge relating to domestic
violence, abuse and anger management is very
different from any other form of counselling.
It is very specific and the therapist requires
extensive training in this particular area.
A client should enquire into the credentials
and experience of any counsellor regardless
of the type of counselling. This is particularly
important for issues relating to domestic
violence, abuse and anger management.
People with these kinds of issues eventually
come to an understanding that they need to
obtain professional help in order to help
them understand this complicated psychological
process that has so deeply affected their
life. They realize that they need to learn
more about themselves, the circumstances that brought about these behaviours and to learn about tools which will effectively solve the problem.
Domestic violence, abuse and anger management
can be psychologically and emotionally devastating
for anyone. It can do immense damage to oneself,
to a relationship and to those around them.
When this is understood, one starts working
for oneself – not because one believes that someone else
is pushing them into it.
The treatment of abuse is relatively new – probably
only forty or fifty years old. So much has
been learned in so short a period. Tremendous
understandings and insights have been gained.
John Stapleford and Associates have been
contributing to this understanding through
research and clinical practice for over three
decades and would be pleased to share their
knowledge with those individuals and families
who are troubled with this issue.
Contact our Toronto office today for details.
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